There’s nothing worse than arguing with family…
We’ve all been there but political rows with the family never get any easier. Parents still seem to want kids (no matter what age) to be seen but not heard. Here are just some of the bullshit things millennials get told whenever they dare to put an opinion forward:
“Get in the real world”
This has got to be the most irritating phrase. It gets thrown out around the start of teenage years but actually never dies, even if you’ve worked customer services gigs while they’ve been collecting their substantial pension. A university degree used to be a sign of aspiration, but now it’s weaponised against young students in awful, boring and avoidable family rows as being a sign of privilege. With few jobs, high uni debt, impossibly high rents, there is nothing more real than millennial life.
“In my day”
It is important to connect across the generations and to share stories from different eras, but not in a way that’s designed to speak over millennials. This is often used to imply that “the good old days” were better. Well, yeah. They probably were before the NHS was being privatised and the economy was tanked.
Isn’t that swell? Times change, the world moves on. Maybe older generations didn’t have Google or Wikipedia, but we also have a mental health crisis among our generation. Things aren’t easier and the concerns of younger generations shouldn’t be dismissed just because we’ve had huge technological advancements in the last thirty years.
This tends to be thrown out when we point out degrees rarely get jobs in the appropriate field. If hard work really was the recipe for success then our generation wouldn’t have an issue with meeting extortionate rents. Nobody should ever have to live in poverty. It’s not about hard work and when older generations brush off the struggles millennials face with “work harder”, it devalues our experiences and suggests that we’re failures if we can’t get a (decent) job. It blames us for problems which our generation didn’t actually cause.
“Political correctness is too extreme”
Sorry, but not saying offensive things isn’t really all that difficult. All “PC culture” is about is trying to be considerate to people. Society is supposed to be progressive. Equality is constant work. Complaining about having to work to be progressive shows that privilege has created laziness at the expense of marginalised people. Younger people trying to do better is something that should be celebrated and not scoffed at.
The worst thing about these arguments is that they feel inevitable. Older generations could have come up with their own lists about how their parents used to annoy them or be condescending. It’s a vicious cycle. As millennials age, let’s hope we don’t fall into that trap with generation Z.